Who is a woman?

One of the earliest things I learnt in my life was the fact that there are a few things I believe in, and equality is one of them... I have seen a lot of protest against inequality in my country- inequality between members of castes, religions, regions etc... But somehow, it all seems minor when I look at the biggest glaring inequality- the one between the sexes...the worst part being, it is all taken for granted...
A well-educated woman doesn't feel the least ashamed to tell me- "I cannot do..... because I am just a girl..." She doesn't sink into the earth with shame while saying it, as I do, hearing it! What does the statement "I am 'just' a girl" mean? Is it an excuse not to have a will of your own, not to stand up for yourself, not to think? Does the fact that you are a "girl" relieve you from accepting responsibilities as an individual?- are you always going to be someone's daughter, someone's sister, someone's wife, someone's mother? When are you going to be relieved of the "care/of" in your address, when are you going to stand up on your own two feet, when are you going to say- "I am Sita", instead of "I am Sita, Ram's wife"?
They say they are in love- how can a person without a backbone love? They say they are "sacrificing" for their husbands, children etc etc etc- anything to prevent taking responsibility... They sit at home leaving their careers, deluding themselves that they are "sacrificing"- a long word which lends legitimacy to a complete lack of ambition... What is sacrifice? I do not understand it- I have only seen the word misused by spineless characters to make their betters feel indebted to them...
I am proud to be a girl... I intend to be "Kajari" before I am anyone's daughter, anyone's wife, anyone's mother... I intend to fulfil all these roles but my first role, my first duty shall always be to the almighty "I"... my role in this world is to do some useful work that I love to do so that at the end of my life, I can look back and be happy, thinking about the good things I have done and experienced, rather than what I have "sacrificed for others". May God grant me this much. Amen.